Well swung: A guide to British swingers - part II

Ewan Morrison, автор "SWUNG", делится своими советами и наблюдениями - Часть II

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6. Swingers are very 'safe'
Whether it be over sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or personal space. Everything commences only from a point of trust and consent within a group. If one person dissents then it's a "no". We told ourselves that at any moment either of us could call it off. But Tony and Joan had us laughing from minute one. This surreal scenario of being with a couple of strangers in a pub, openly discussing the terms and conditions. Condoms? Of course. Will the two men be having sex? No. The two women? Yes. Full partner swap? Yes - but Tony didn't like other men looking at his penis. All this in a public bar surrounded by 50 people who talked about "normal" things - Big Brother, nightclubs, Posh & Becks. No safety words said, we were invited back to their house.

7. The old cliché - Seventies suburbia, bored middle-class, middle-aged wife-swapping key parties - is no longer true
In my year I must have come across every social type apart from that one: a stand-up comedian; a call-centre girl and her partner; a male model; two professors; two heavy-metal heads. No hint of the suburbs - and mostly everyone under 40. Tony worked in insurance, Joan worked at Tesco; they lived in a housing scheme. Once they'd shown us in and we'd had a drink they revealed their real names: Steve and Sally.

8. Swinging is surreal
The feeling is of an almost-socialist utopia of open-mindedness and tolerance. You get invited into the homes of people you wouldn't normally socialise with. It's like being in a hobby club - stamp collectors, or model-aeroplane makers. There's the foreign-ness of their décor, their taste in music. And in an hour you're having sex together.

9. Swingers love to philosophise
Before we got down to business, Sally and Steve talked about how long they'd been doing it - how it had brought them closer, how so many couples strayed after the seven-year mark, how it contained the threat of infidelity (Steve travelled a lot with work), and how it made them love each other more (76 per cent of swingers rate themselves as "very happy" as compared to 54 per cent of non-swingers). They wanted to know all about us. How long we'd been together? How often had we done it before? We confessed it was our first time and they were thrilled to have some "newbies" - they talked excitedly about this whole world that would open up for us. Very strange, very unlike the usual monogamous boy-meets-girl processes of seduction. There was a lot of laughter.

10. Swinging is not just about sex
Steve and Sally made it clear that they were not in this just to have one-night flings - they wanted to develop friendships. They knew many other swinging couples and sometimes they just hung out. We didn't need to have sex tonight if we didn't want to. They liked us, they'd love to see us again. And it was us two who came across as pushy, wanting to get the deal done. Still, it was a relief and a release to talk with a couple so openly about love and sex and relationships, shedding so much baggage. Sitting in their lounge surrounded by pictures of their family members. At some point it was agreed that we'd all get naked. And Joanne had her first lesbian experience. I watched, for the first time, my girlfriend having sex first with a woman then with a man. Then I took my turn with Sally. I made the mistake of watching Steve having sex with Joanne. He covered his penis with his shirt. Me and Sally sat watching, sipping warm Liebfraumilch.
Joanne felt awkward after that, she seemed to have enjoyed it all more than me - although the lesbian thing had not turned her on as much as she thought. She said touching another woman's breasts was a bit like putting on your own bra. She was glad, though, that she could now go to the Pearly Gates and say: "I did it!"

While working on a novel about swingers the acclaimed author Ewan Morrison spent a year exploring Britain's secret sexual subculture. Twelve months and many, many partners later, this is what he learned

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Источник: Independent