Interview: Kara Smith

Kara Smith started selling sex toys years ago. Recently she realized she had more to offer: lots of swinging experience and a load of good advice. She now works as a lifestyle consultant, helping couples achieve their sexual fantasies. Her website, exsexories.com, offers an abundance of toys, tips and a sign-up for a personal consultation. For our own tête-à-tête with Kara, we brought along a camera and tape recorder just in case things got interesting—which they did, naturally.



PLAYBOY: How did you get into the lifestyle?

KARA: About five years ago I got the urge to be with another woman. I told my husband, and he refused. When our marriage ended I met a woman who wanted to be with me while her husband watched, and it was incredible. I was working as a dancer at the time, and I started fooling around with other dancers. I met a few couples in Vegas, and it flourished from there.

PLAYBOY: So you turned your hobby into your profession?

KARA: It just came naturally for me to talk about sexuality, so I started consulting with couples who wanted to join the lifestyle. I judge what level of swinging they’re ready for, help them set boundaries and prepare them for any situation that may arise. Then I give tips on finding the right people, and I follow up afterward to make sure their experience was fulfilling. Nine times out of 10, swinging makes the relationship stronger.

PLAYBOY: You can plan everything, but sex is still about the unexpected, don’t you think?

KARA: Yes. The night before my Playboy shoot I was with my boyfriend and another couple. Just as I was climaxing I got too excited, fell off the bed and kneed myself in the eye. It was hilarious, but at the time, I was so worried about having a black eye that I wasn’t laughing. Luckily, a little makeup did the trick.

PLAYBOY: You look pretty good to us. What does a would-be swinger need to know?

KARA: Make sure your “playing field” is big enough so you don’t end up on the floor like me. Have your toys clean and ready—a delay can kill the mood. Don’t drink too much: You don’t want to do something you’ll regret later. And most important, discuss boundaries beforehand and stick to them. You can always loosen the rules next time if everyone wants to go further.

PLAYBOY: People say the sexual revolution is a thing of the past. Are they right?

KARA: They couldn’t be more wrong. People are more accepting and confident in their sexuality than ever before. The Internet has made the lifestyle so much more mainstream. Just punch in what you’re looking for and you’ll get a huge list of people ready to join you. When you get into it, you realize this isn’t a fringe movement. These are normal, loving people. They have kids; they’re on the soccer field and in the grocery store. They’re your neighbors, and they’re living out their deepest sexual fantasies.

Источник: Playboy